8 months after the stroke and he’s leaving … The man stood in my living room screaming at me how he’s going to kill my daughter over a text message she sent. Yes, she was mad at me, and yes I showed him after days of being accused of not trusting him and hiding things. There is no winning here. He says he’s leaving and this time, stroke or not, I’m letting him go. His family can deal with him. I’m sorry he thinks he’s wasted his life with worthless people. I can’t win with a man who never forgives or forgets. So that’s that.
Change
It's cold outside
And yet I'm drawn Into the moon's pure light
I raise my hands; entreating.
Where is your voice grandmother?
My questions tumble together.
I am WOMAN.
What is normal?
What changes should I expect?
When?
Who can I go to?
What should I do?
How do I change?
Why must I be the example
when there is none for me?
Shhhh . . .
Quiet . . .
Stand in the light . . .
Wait . . .
And it comes to me.
WOMAN
Mother
Questioner
Be still.
Hear the answers.
Life is change.
We do what must be done.
We sing.
We dance.
We cry.
We love.
We live.
WE are the grandmothers.
Again, really? Is he dehydrated? Don’t let him affect you so strongly, his brain is still healing itself. Breathe and love, lovey.
Short of finding a way to commit him, he’s leaving. He believes he is the smartest man in the world and he’s been telling everyone who will listen that It’s my fault Dinah died. Omg he’s been cruel and doing everything in his power to isolate me.
Yes he IS hydrated. He may still be healing, but someone else needs to do this now.
actually i do believe you could have him hospitalized at this point. he definitely cannot complete all self care on his own. you might want to give his doctor a call or start at social services level and see if someone can help you get him help, dont you have medical power of attorney anyway? if he was in a rehab center(nursing home) they would be working with him to some degree on mental health issues. honestly, if you are not a nurse, you have NO business trying to manage a stroke patient on your own. he might have fought you on a rehab facility, but this kind of behavior and its subsequent effects on the family are EXACTLY why he needs it in those first stages after a stroke. and id be willing to bet, he could have had more smaller ones since hes been there with you and you cannot tell it yourself. what was it you said….ASK for help. its time to admit that you cannot carry this man around on your back, he is taking you down with him, so to speak. get HIM the help HE needs and it may very well save YOU as well.